What is the sign that Allah loves a household?
Rasulullah Salallahu alaihi wasallam said:
"When Allah loves the people of a household, He introduces kindness among them.” (Ibn Abi al-Dunya; Sahih al-Jami)
Kindness amongst husband and wife, brothers and sisters, in-laws and other household people is a sure sign that Allah Loves them. On the other hand, bickering and fighting, arguing and bitterness, “silent treatment” and gossiping are a sure sign that Allah Ta’ala is unhappy with that household.
When Allah Paak is unhappy, no matter how delicious the food may be and no matter how exciting the TV program may be, it will not bring happiness into the heart.
When Allah Paak is unhappy, no matter how huge the mansion may be, there is no true love between a husband and a wife.At the slightest provocation, they spit and are split apart.
When Allah Paak is unhappy, then no holidays at a beach front hotel can bring tranquillity to the heart — it is but just band aids to a serious problem.
Sin does not glue people’s hearts together. Rather it is obedience unto Allah.
Does Allah Paak not proclaim:
“Verily those who bring Imaan and do good deeds, RAHMAAN will create LOVE AMONGST THEM” (Surah Maryam)
MORE QUALITIES CONNECTED TO THE HEART
To be modest.
To express gratitude over a bounty or favour.
To fulfil promises.
To exercise patience.
To consider yourself lower than others
To have mercy on the creation.
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The Notorious Indian Dowry System - Muslims are also involved
Since time immemorial a major crime is being committed against humanity in India and other Indian subcontinent countries like Pakistan, Bangladesh, Sri Lanka, etc. This crime is the Dowry or the Dahej system. It is a system in which durable goods, cash, and real or movable property that the bride's family gives to the bridegroom, his parents, or his relatives as a condition of the marriage. Thus, along with the bride, the bridegroom’s family receives cash and gifts like jewellery, motor vehicles, electrical appliances, furniture, bedding, crockery, utensils and other household items.
The custom in most cases puts great financial burden on the brides’ families and the parents have to spend every single penny of their savings on the dowry of their daughters. Many families have to borrow money at a very high interest rate and they go on striving throughout their lives to pay back the debts.
The dowry system is not a mere evil; it is a Mother of many evils. It is known to have led people to commit many crimes against women. The predominant types of dowry crimes relate to cruelty (which includes emotional torture and harassment) and domestic violence including physical and sexual assaults.
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This World in Comparison to the Aakhirah
Rasoolullah (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said:
“Wallah! This world in comparison to the Aakhirah is like any of you putting his finger in the sea.
See what does it [the finger] bring back!”
(Mishkaat, Kitaabur Riqaaq)
Comment: This world with its pleasures and time in comparison to the pleasures and time of the Aakhirah is like the moistness left on a finger after dipping it in the ocean. The moistness is utterly inferior and insignificant in relation to the countless of litres of water in the ocean. (Mirqaat)
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