الأحد 9 شوّال 1439
Sunday Shawwal 9 1439
Sunday 24 June 2018

WHEN SPOUSES CURSE by HAZRAT MAULANA YUNUS PATEL SAHEB (RAHMATULLAH ALAYH)

A husband complained that he was always angry with his wife, and they continuously argued.…

There are so many such cases: If it is not the husband complaining of his wife, it is the wife complaining of her husband.In this case, having been informed of the weaknesses of his wife, which are common to other women as well, I said: ‘I agree with you that there are weaknesses in women. However, there are also weaknesses in men. …Moreover, your anger is for worldly reasons. You are cursing your wife and inviting that same curse upon yourself.’

I then explained to him: ‘When you curse your wife on her defiance, non-compliance or her indifference to your rights, then ALLAH TA’ALA'S AZAAB descends upon her. When that punishment reaches her, she will not be the only who will suffer. As her husband, you too suffer. If she is afflicted with illness or meets up with some accident, the burden of expense falls upon you, as the husband. You will have to take care of her, and will also find difficulty in that she will not be able to see to you and the children, and the maintenance of the home, etc.

And if she has to curse you, she too will find herself in a situation of trial and difficulty. ’There are those women who have the bad habit of cursing their husbands and children – and generally this is due to impatience or frustration. Instead of turning to ALLAH TA'ALA and making Du’aa, they utter such words, which sometimes finds acceptance in the heavens, but becomes a source of great regret.It is due to this tendency of cursing and being ungrateful to spouses that RASULULLAAH (SALLALLAAHU ‘ALAYHI WASALLAM) directed WOMEN towards giving CHARITY and SEEKING FORGIVENESS.

Thus, when ALLAH TA’ALA punishes the husband or the child, then the wife or mother is left lamenting her plight. It may be that ALLAH TA’ALA accepts her curse, and in a fit of anger the husband divorces the wife, he loses his wife and children and she is left in dire circumstances as a divorcee; or it may be that ALLAH TA’ALA accepts the curse, and as such his entire business collapses. Then poverty becomes the lot of not just the husband, but also the wife who cursed, and the children. There are so many ways that curses are Divinely accepted.

ALHAMDULILLAAH, the husband explained the above to his wife and they both agreed that arguing and cursing was not the solution. Arguments are the cause of great satisfaction and joy to shaytaan, whose great effort is to destroy marriages. Arguments, in fact, indicate to shaytaan’s presence in our homes. It is the stepping stone to enmity between husband and wife, and can easily end up with divorce, a broken home and many other problems.

Who does not want a happy marriage? Who does not want Sukoon (tranquility) in marriage? However, to achieve this, some effort has to be made. We just have to train ourselves to adopt HILM (TOLERANCE) and SABR (PATIENCE) at times, and learn to curb the tendency to argue and fight – which is otherwise common even for the most petty reasons.

If we can all keep before us the following HADEETH and have YAQEEN and conviction on the words of RASULULLAAH (SALLALLAAHU ‘ALAYHI WASALLAM), many arguments would not even surface and there would be peace and tranquility:

“I guarantee a house in the middle of Paradise to the one who forsakes argument even when he is in the right.’

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