السبت 3 جمادى الأولى 1439
Saturday Jumada al-Ula 3 1439
Saturday 20 January 2018

RECIPE FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

“Our Lord! Grant that our spouses and our offspring be a comfort to our eyes, and give us the grace to lead those who are conscious of You.” (Surah Furqaan, Verse 74)

Question: Every human being by nature has an instinct to dispute. This instinct becomes more manifest between the husband and wife, thus leading to marital disputes. How can this instinct be controlled?

Answer: Consider the following ten points to control the instinct of dispute and maintain a happy marriage.

  1. Fear Allah: It was the noble practice of Nabi Sallallahu alayhi wasallam to conscientize the spouses about the fear for Allah before performing a Nikah by reciting the verses (Nisa v14, Ahzab v69, Aali-Imraan v101) from the Quraan Shareef. All the verses are common in the message of Taqwa (fear of Allah). The spouses will be first committed to Allah before being committed to their partner. There can be no doubt in the success of a marriage governed by the fear of Allah.
  2. Never be angry at the same time: Anger is the root cause for all marital disputes. One Sahabi came to Rasulullah Sallallahu alayhi wasallam and sought some advice. Rasulullah Sallallahu alayhi wasallam replied, control your anger. The same advice was rendered three times. (Mishkaat pg.433; HM Saeed)
  3. If one has to win an argument, let it be the other: Nabi Sallallahu alayhi wasallam said: “Whoever discards an argument despite being correct shall earn a palace in the centre of Jannah. (Ibid pg.412)
  4. Never shout at each other unless the house is on fire: Luqman (Alaihis Salaam) while offering advice to his son said: ”And lower your voice for verily the most disliked voice is that of a donkey”. (Surah Luqman v19)
  5. If you have to criticize, do it lovingly: Rasulullah Sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, ‘A Mu’ min is a mirror for a Mu’min.’ (Abu Dawud vol.2 pg.325; Imdadiyah) Advise with dignity and advise silently.
  6. Never bring up mistakes of the past: Nabi Muhammad Sallallahu alayhi wasallam said: “Whoever conceals the faults of others, Allah shall conceal his faults on the day of Qiyaamah.” (Mishkaat pg.429; HM Saeed)
  7. Neglect the whole world rather than your marriage partner: Nabi Muhammad Sallallahu alayhi wasallam confirmed the advice of Salman to Abu-Darda (Radiayallaahu Anhu) for neglecting his wife. “Verily there is a right of your wife over you.” (Nasai Hadith2391)
  8. Never sleep with an argument unsettled: Abu Bakr Radiallahu anhu resolved his dispute with his wife over-feeding the guests before going to bed. (Bukhari Hadith 602)
  9. At least, once a day, express your gratitude to your partner: Nabi Muhammad Sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, ‘Whoever does not show gratitude to the people has not shown gratitude to Allah.’ (Abu Dawud pg.662; Karachi)
  10. When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness: Nabi Muhammad Sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, ‘All the sons of Aadam commit error, and the best of those who err are those who seek forgiveness.’ (Tirmidhi Hadith 2499)

 

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حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ بَشَّارٍ، حَدَّثَنَا غُنْدَرٌ، حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ، عَنْ أَبِي حَصِينٍ، وَالأَشْعَثِ بْنِ سُلَيْمٍ، سَمِعَا الأَسْوَدَ بْنَ هِلاَلٍ، عَنْ مُعَاذِ بْنِ جَبَلٍ، قَالَ قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ يَا مُعَاذُ أَتَدْرِي مَا حَقُّ اللَّهِ عَلَى الْعِبَادِ ‏"‏‏.‏ قَالَ اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ أَعْلَمُ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ أَنْ يَعْبُدُوهُ وَلاَ يُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا، أَتَدْرِي مَا حَقُّهُمْ عَلَيْهِ ‏"‏‏.‏ قَالَ اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ أَعْلَمُ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ أَنْ لاَ يُعَذِّبَهُمْ ‏"‏‏.‏

Narrated by Mu`adh bin Jabal Radiallahu Anhu:

Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said, "O Mu`adh! Do you know what Allah's Right upon His slaves is?" I said, "Allah and His Apostle know best." Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said, "To worship Him (Allah) Alone and to join none in worship with Him (Allah). Do you know what their right upon Him is?" I replied, "Allah and His Apostle know best." Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said, "Not to punish them (if they do so).

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