THE NIKAH OF HADHRAT FAATIMAH (radhiallahu anhaa)--- A LESSON FOR US!
Hadhrat Ali (radhiallahu anhu) very bashfully approached Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) for the great wealth of Nabi's (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) daughter. Hadhrat Ali (radhiallahu anhu) made his marriage proposal for the hand of Hadhrat Faatimah (radhiallahu anhaa) directly to Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam). The command of Allah Ta'ala was immediately revealed and Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) accepted the proposal.
The rigmarole, frills and fancies attendant to proposals and engagements were totally absent. The customs surrounding marriage proposals and engagements of nowadays are nonsensical and at variance as well as in conflict with the Sunnah.
At the time of marriage the age of Hadhrat Faatimah (radhiallahu anha) was fifteen and half years and that of Hadhrat Ali (radhiallahu anhu) was twenty one years. After accepting Hadhrat Ali's (radiallahu anhu) proposal, Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) ordered Hadhrat Anas (radiallahu anhu), "O Anas, go and call Abu Bakr, Umar. Uthmaan, Talhaa, Zuhair and a group among the Ansaar."
It is clear from this example set by Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) that the Nikah ceremony was being arranged with the greatest of simplicity and without any fanfare. No special gathering, venue, time, etc. was contemplated nor was any hue and cry raised about the Nikah which was about to be conducted. It is thus Sunnat to merely gather some close relatives and others, without creating a hubbub and proceed with the Nikah quietly and with dignity, i.e. without the accompaniment of the multitude of un-lslamic and haraam customs and activities so rife in Muslim marriages of the day.
Sadly, hardly a day goes by without someone being a victim of crime.
No man, woman, child or old person is safe from being attacked in his home, shop or car. Everyone lives in fear. Everyone is scared. The best of security features cannot keep the criminals at bay. Whereas non-Muslims attribute crime to various factors, Muslims will understand that ultimately nothing happens without Allah’s Command. Not a leaf moves without His Direct Divine Order.
O, how much we sin against Allah Ta’ala! O, how much we disregard the Sunnat of Rasulullah Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam! O, how we cheat on our wives! We commit Zina with our eyes and speech. O, how we disobey our husbands. We get angry at them for no real reason. Who is free from the poison of our sins?
We sin freely and happily. We encourage others to join us in committing sins. We enjoy and propagate our sins. We boast about our sins. We love our sins. We are proud of our sins. Instead of seriously seeking to reform and repent, we prefer to defend and die for our sins.
Those who enlighten us and encourage us to sin are viewed as friends. Those who point out our sins to us, are mocked at and viewed as enemies. We feel offended when Nahi-anil-Munkar is made. Terribly offended. Offended enough to fight.
The Muazzin called Fajr time. How few cared! Last night we were busy until late watching TV and Videos. This morning we were too tired to make Sajdah unto Allah. So much is Allah forgotten despite being so much needed!
When a boy or girl is born to a person, it is preferable to name the child on the seventh day and to make aqeeqah. By making aqeeqah, the child is safeguarded from all types of dangers and calamities.
The method of aqeeqah is that if a boy is born, two goats or two sheep should be slaughtered. If a girl is born, one goat or one sheep should be slaughtered. Alternatively, if one wishes to take a share in a bull that is being slaughtered for qurbâni, then two shares should be taken for a boy and one share for a girl. Furthermore, the child's head should be shaved, the hair should be weighed, and gold or silver equal to the weight of the hair should be given in charity. If one wishes, saffron could be applied to the child's head.
If one does not make the aqeeqah on the seventh day, one should bear in mind the seventh day (when making the aqeeqah in the future). The method of calculating the seventh day is that the day that the child is born, aqeeqah should be made the following week but one day before that. For example, if the child is born on a Friday, aqeeqah should be made on the following Thursday. If the child was born on a Thursday, aqeeqah should be made on the following Wednesday.
Hadhrat Abu Sulaimaan Daaraaee (rahmatullah alayh) said:
Everything has its corrosion. Eating to the degree of satiation is the corrosion of the heart's purity. Ihtilaam (nocturnal discharge of semen) is a punishment for filling the stomach.
A man who eats his stomach full suffers six calamities: 1) He does not experience pleasure in Ibaadat. 2) His memory in remembering wisdom decreases. 3) He is unable to be affectionate to people. 4) Ibaadat is onerous on him. 5) His lust increases. 6) He is preoccupied with the toilet.
He said:A man in whose heart is noor (spiritual light) is angered by nafsaani desires. That noor separates him from the world and inclines him to the Aakhirah.
Abandonment of ego is called Tawaadhu' (humility). (As long as one thinks of oneself as being something, one lacks humility.) He who does not recognize his nafs does not understand the meaning of Tawaadhu'.
One who speaks without thinking always regrets.
Eating less, sleeping less and speaking less are the signs of a sincere taubah.
The Thikr of Allah effaces sins and His Ridhaa (being pleased with Him) severs vain hopes.
Extracted from: Scattered Pearls - Majlisul Ulama of South Africa
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