“If a person straightens himself like an arrow [i.e. he corrects his actions and perfects his character], then too he will certainly have some enemy or the other.” (Imaam Shaafi' Rahmatullahi alaih)
Therefore, one should not be concerned about the comments and attitudes of others towards one. As long as one is following the Shariah of Allah and the Sunnah of Rasoolullah (Sallallahu alaihi wasallam) the criticism of the critics and enmity of enemies should be ignored. Their comments should be assigned to the trash can.
A person said to Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam: "O Rasulullah! A certain woman offers plenty of nafl salats, fasts abundantly and gives a lot in charity. However she causes much verbal harm to herneighbours." He replied: "She will go into jahannam." The same person then said: "A certain woman does not offer many naflsalats, does not fast abundantly nor does she give a lot in charity; she merely gives pieces of panir (a type of cheese) in charity. However she does not cause any harm to her neighbours." He replied: "Shewill go into jannah."
Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: "The woman who passes away in such a state where her husband is pleased with her will enter jannah."
Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: "The person who has been blessed with four things has in fact been blessed with the treasures of this world and the hereafter. They are: a grateful heart, a tongue that remembers Allah, a body that exercises patience at the time of calamities and difficulties, a woman who does not cause any taint or blemish with regard to her honour and her husband's wealth."
Lesson: In other words, she should not lose her honour nor should she spend her husband's wealth without obtaining his pleasure.
Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: "Among the Arab women, the women of the Quraysh surpass all other women in two aspects: they are very compassionate to their children and they protect the wealth of their husbands."
Lesson: We learn from this that women should possess these two characteristics. These days, women spend the wealth of their husbands very lavishly. They should display far more compassion and attention to reforming their habits and mannerisms than what they display for their children’s food and clothing. If they do not do this, their compassion and tenderness will be incomplete.
Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: "Marry virgin women because their relationship with their husbands is soft and tender, and they are pleased with the minimum that is spent on them."
Lesson: We learn from this that modesty, consideration and contentment are good characteristics in a woman. This does not mean that one should not marry widows. Instead, this is actually in praise of virgin women. There are certain Ahadith in which Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam made du‘a for a certain Sahabi for marrying a widow.
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12 December 2017
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Abu Hurairah Radiallahu Anhu narrated that the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said:
“Indeed the first of what will be asked about on the Day of Judgment – meaning the slave (of Allah) being questioned about the favors – is that it will be said to him: ‘Did We not make your body, health, and give you of cool water to drink?’”