A translated excerpt from Mariful Quran on Surah Talaq
WHY MARRIAGE IS A PERMANENT RELATIONSHIP FOR THE WHOLE LIFETIME
According to the drift of Islamic teachings, when a man and a woman contract marriage, it should establish a permanent relationship for the whole lifetime. This will maintain stability of husband and wife in mundane, as well as, in religious affairs, and also in the up-bringing of the children born to this wedlock, so that their moral conduct is proper and upright.
AVOID BITTERNESS AND RECONCILE
Therefore, Islam at every step of the way, guides marriage partners to avoid bitterness in their marital relationship, and even if it does arise, utmost efforts are made to remove it and to patch up differences and reconcile. However, despite all these attempts, it is possible in some cases that there remains no way out for the welfare of the estranged parties except to terminate this relationship.
DIVORCE - THE MOST DETESTED PERMISSIBLE ACT
Religions that do not allow divorce cause hardship for their followers when faced with such complicated situations and lead to serious consequences. For that reason, Islam has, like the laws of marriage, laid down principles and rules for divorce as well. However, it has at the same time declared to its followers the guiding principle that, out of all permissible acts, divorce is the most detested one in the sight of Allah. [ narrated by Sayyidna ‘Abdullah Ibn ‘Umar (Radiallahu Anhu)], meaning that people should avoid it as far as possible.
ALLAH DOES NOT LOVE THOSE WHO DIVORCE AND MARRY FOR CARNAL DESIRES
They should use this provision only as a last resort, only when they are compelled to do it.
Sayyidna ‘Ali (Radiallahu Anhu) has narrated that the Messenger of Allah (صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم) said:
تزوّجوا ولا تطلقوا فانّ الطّلاق یھتزّ منہ عرش الرّحمٰن
Marry; do not divorce because divorce causes the Throne of the All-Merciful to shudder.
Sayyidna Abu Musa Ash’ ari (Radiallahu Anhu) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم) said:
“ Do not divorce women without their committing the evil act, because Allah does not love men who merely wish to experience the taste of intercourse, nor does He loves women who merely wish to experience the taste of intercourse.” [ Qurtubi vide Thalabi ]
Sayyidna Mua’ dh Ibn Jabal (Radiallahu Anhu) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم) said:
“ Allah has created nothing on the face of the earth dearer to Him than emancipation of slaves, and Allah has created nothing on the face of earth more hateful to Him than divorce.” [ Qurtubi ]
Nevertheless, Islam has though discouraged divorce and has advised its followers to avoid it as far as possible, it has allowed it in cases of necessity under special rules and regulations which require that if termination of marital relationship becomes necessary, it should be done in a fair and dignified manner. Divorce should not be taken as a means of satisfying anger and revenge.
Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: "O women! Remember that the pious among you will enter jannah before the pious men. (Later when their husbands will enter jannah) they (the pious women) will be given a bath, perfumed and then handed over to their husbands on red and yellow conveyances. They will have children with them who will be like scattered pearls."
Lesson: O women! What greater virtue do you wish to have? You have already reached jannah before the men. Obviously, the prerequisite is that you should become pious and this is not difficult.
8 POINTS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT THE SACRED MONTH OF MUHARRAM
In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful
1. Why is this month sacred?
Alhamdulillah, we thank Allah Ta’aala for blessing us with the opportunity of opening another new year of the Islamic Calendar. The month of Muharram is the first month of the Islamic Calendar and is one of the four sacred months.
A true believer is one who is ceaselessly searching for a means to atone his wrongs and to gain closeness to his Sustainer, to achieve the esteemed and elite favor and pleasure of his Creator. The true believer is he who respects and holds sacred what Allah, Most High has decreed as sacred. Allah, Most High announces in the Holy Qur’an,
“Verily, the number of months with Allah is twelve months (in a year), so was it ordained by Allah on the Day when He created the heavens and the earth; of them four are Sacred. That is the right religion, so wrong not yourselves therein” [Surah At-Tawbah 9:36].
The sacredness of Muharram is expounded in this hadith narrated by Hazrat Abu Bakr Radiallahu anhu, that Rasulullah Sallallahu alayhi wasallam said:
"Time has come back to its original state which it had when Allah created the Heavens and the Earth; the year is twelve months, four of which are sacred. Three of them are in succession: Dhul-Qa`da, Dhul-Hijja and Al-Muharram, and (the fourth being) Rajab Mudar (named after the tribe of Mudar as they used to respect this month) which stands between Jumad (ath-Thani) and Sha`ban."
It was also narrated that Abu Hurayrah Radiallahu anhu said that Rasulullah Sallallahu alayhi wasallam said:
“The best fast after Ramadan is in the month of Allah, Muharram.”
2. How do we show reverence to the sacredness of this month?
Follow the Sunnah
The path leading to gaining proximity to Allah is based on our deeds. Our deeds must be in conformance to the Sunnah practice of the beloved of Allah, His final messenger Muhammad Sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Allah, Most High addresses His beloved in the Holy Qur’an that,
“Say (oh Muhammad to your people), if you love Allah then follow me and Allah will love you and forgive your sins.”
Allah, Most High further instructs him that,
“Say, obey Allah and the Messenger, then if they turn away verily Allah does not love the non-believers.”
Do not follow your nafs
The sanctity of this month and deeds which give practical expression to its sanctity have been explicated to us in numerous unambiguous narrations of the Messenger of Allah Sallallahu alayhi wasallam. It is now upon us to express our love to The Almighty and His beloved Messenger by ensuring that our deeds are in strict conformity to the Sunnah. We should seek sufficient knowledge and counsel from the Ulama to ensure that our deeds are not polluted by our base desires and that we don’t end up wasting our time and efforts by falling into the trap of Shaytaan, succeeding in nothing but to promote a trend flavored with Islam but which is irreconcilable with the Sunnah.
There were two houses standing next to each other. In one of them resided a very unhappy family. The spouses yelled at each other, they fought and quarreled all the time. The other was a place of happiness and calm.
During one of the fights a wife asked her husband:
“Did you ever hear them quarrel or yell over at that house? No!
So, go there and see what they do to avoid it!”
The husband stood at the window of his neighbors and watched. There they were busy doing their own thing. The wife was in the kitchen cooking, and the man sat at the table writing. The phone rang, and the man jumped up and headed to the hallway to get it.
On his way he bumped into a vase, it fell and broke. He got down to his knees and started picking up the pieces. The wife ran into the room from the kitchen. She also kneeled down and started helping her husband to pick them up.
The man said to his wife:
“I am so sorry. I rushed to get the phone and bumped into the vase. It fell and got broken.”
The wife replied:
“No, honey, it is my fault. I put it there on the way. That’s why you bumped into it.” They made up, and that was over. Both got back to what they were doing.
The man who watched them returned to his wife. She wanted to know what the secret of their happiness was.
What he said was fantastic:
“I know it now. In their family they both are guilty and in our family both of us are always right!”
That’s the secret of family happiness!
There are times you need to forfeit your right to win your peace: depends on which you cherish most.
This recipe is applicable, not only in the home, but also at work and in all relationships.
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THE HADEETH CORNER
وعن حكيم بن حزام رضي الله عنه عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: "اليد العليا خير من اليد السفلى، وابدأ بمن تعول، وخير الصدقة عن ظهر غنى ومن يستعفف يعفه الله، ومن يستغن يغنه الله” (متفق عليه)
Hakim bin Hizam (Radiallahu Anhu) reported that Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said, "The upper hand is better than the lower one; and begin (charity) with those who are under your care; and the best charity is (the one which is given) out of surplus; and he who wishes to abstain from begging will be protected by Allah; and he who seeks self- sufficiency will be made self-sufficient by Allah."