Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: "O women! Remember that the pious among you will enter jannah before the pious men. (Later when their husbands will enter jannah) they (the pious women) will be given a bath, perfumed and then handed over to their husbands on red and yellow conveyances. They will have children with them who will be like scattered pearls."
Lesson: O women! What greater virtue do you wish to have? You have already reached jannah before the men. Obviously, the prerequisite is that you should become pious and this is not difficult.
There were two houses standing next to each other. In one of them resided a very unhappy family. The spouses yelled at each other, they fought and quarreled all the time. The other was a place of happiness and calm.
During one of the fights a wife asked her husband:
“Did you ever hear them quarrel or yell over at that house? No!
So, go there and see what they do to avoid it!”
The husband stood at the window of his neighbors and watched. There they were busy doing their own thing. The wife was in the kitchen cooking, and the man sat at the table writing. The phone rang, and the man jumped up and headed to the hallway to get it.
On his way he bumped into a vase, it fell and broke. He got down to his knees and started picking up the pieces. The wife ran into the room from the kitchen. She also kneeled down and started helping her husband to pick them up.
The man said to his wife:
“I am so sorry. I rushed to get the phone and bumped into the vase. It fell and got broken.”
The wife replied:
“No, honey, it is my fault. I put it there on the way. That’s why you bumped into it.” They made up, and that was over. Both got back to what they were doing.
The man who watched them returned to his wife. She wanted to know what the secret of their happiness was.
What he said was fantastic:
“I know it now. In their family they both are guilty and in our family both of us are always right!”
That’s the secret of family happiness!
There are times you need to forfeit your right to win your peace: depends on which you cherish most.
This recipe is applicable, not only in the home, but also at work and in all relationships.
Hakeemul Ummah Hazrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thaanwi Sahib رحمه الله has said that the concept of a home is a reality. But what is defined as a home?
A home can be termed as a place where nobody has a right to evict one. An individual cannot lay claim to somebody else's house; the owner will have him evicted. Similarly, if any person has wealth, nobody has a right to snatch it away.
At this juncture, what is the reality that defines our possessions regarding our homes, our wealth, our respect, our honour, our wives and children? If these really belong to us, then nobody has a right to take it away. But the reality is that every individual will need to leave all his possessions when he departs from this world.
A home is a place from which no one can expel us
Hazrat Thaanwi رحمه الله explains that a home is such a place where no one can expel us but we have to acknowledge that a single order from the government can result in our possessions being snatched away. Can we then attach ourselves to our 'homes' where we cannot exercise full control. We have deceived ourselves in that we have attached ourselves to something that does not truly belong to us; when the One and Only Owner wills, He will eject us at any given time. We therefore have no control over our homes, wealth, wives and children. How then can we lay claim to anything that we feel belongs to us?
THE NIKAH OF HADHRAT FAATIMAH (radhiallahu anhaa)--- A LESSON FOR US!
Hadhrat Ali (radhiallahu anhu) very bashfully approached Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) for the great wealth of Nabi's (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) daughter. Hadhrat Ali (radhiallahu anhu) made his marriage proposal for the hand of Hadhrat Faatimah (radhiallahu anhaa) directly to Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam). The command of Allah Ta'ala was immediately revealed and Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) accepted the proposal.
The rigmarole, frills and fancies attendant to proposals and engagements were totally absent. The customs surrounding marriage proposals and engagements of nowadays are nonsensical and at variance as well as in conflict with the Sunnah.
At the time of marriage the age of Hadhrat Faatimah (radhiallahu anha) was fifteen and half years and that of Hadhrat Ali (radhiallahu anhu) was twenty one years. After accepting Hadhrat Ali's (radiallahu anhu) proposal, Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) ordered Hadhrat Anas (radiallahu anhu), "O Anas, go and call Abu Bakr, Umar. Uthmaan, Talhaa, Zuhair and a group among the Ansaar."
It is clear from this example set by Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) that the Nikah ceremony was being arranged with the greatest of simplicity and without any fanfare. No special gathering, venue, time, etc. was contemplated nor was any hue and cry raised about the Nikah which was about to be conducted. It is thus Sunnat to merely gather some close relatives and others, without creating a hubbub and proceed with the Nikah quietly and with dignity, i.e. without the accompaniment of the multitude of un-lslamic and haraam customs and activities so rife in Muslim marriages of the day.
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Thursday 12 Muharram 1441 12 September 2019
AFFLICTIONS AND THE END OF THE WORLD - 2
Narrated Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri Radiallahu Anhu:
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said, "There will come a time when the best property of a Muslim will be sheep which he will take to the tops of mountains and the places of rainfall so as to flee with his religion from the afflictions.
Narrated Abu Huraira Radiallahu Anhu:
Allah's Messenger Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said, "There will be afflictions (in the near future) during which a sitting person will be better than a standing one, and the standing one will be better than the walking one, and the walking one will be better than the running one, and whoever will expose himself to these afflictions, they will destroy him. So whoever can find a place of protection or refuge from them, should take shelter in it."