"When Allah loves the people of a household, He introduces kindness among them.” (Ibn Abi al-Dunya; Sahih al-Jami)
Kindness amongst husband and wife, brothers and sisters, in-laws and other household people is a sure sign that Allah Loves them. On the other hand, bickering and fighting, arguing and bitterness, “silent treatment” and gossiping are a sure sign that Allah Ta’ala is unhappy with that household.
When Allah Paak is unhappy, no matter how delicious the food may be and no matter how exciting the TV program may be, it will not bring happiness into the heart.
When Allah Paak is unhappy, no matter how huge the mansion may be, there is no true love between a husband and a wife.At the slightest provocation, they spit and are split apart.
When Allah Paak is unhappy, then no holidays at a beach front hotel can bring tranquillity to the heart — it is but just band aids to a serious problem.
Sin does not glue people’s hearts together. Rather it is obedience unto Allah.
Does Allah Paak not proclaim:
“Verily those who bring Imaan and do good deeds, RAHMAAN will create LOVE AMONGST THEM” (Surah Maryam)
Since time immemorial a major crime is being committed against humanity in India and other Indian subcontinent countries like Pakistan, Bangladesh, Sri Lanka, etc. This crime is the Dowry or the Dahej system. It is a system in which durable goods, cash, and real or movable property that the bride's family gives to the bridegroom, his parents, or his relatives as a condition of the marriage. Thus, along with the bride, the bridegroom’s family receives cash and gifts like jewellery, motor vehicles, electrical appliances, furniture, bedding, crockery, utensils and other household items.
The custom in most cases puts great financial burden on the brides’ families and the parents have to spend every single penny of their savings on the dowry of their daughters. Many families have to borrow money at a very high interest rate and they go on striving throughout their lives to pay back the debts.
The dowry system is not a mere evil; it is a Mother of many evils. It is known to have led people to commit many crimes against women. The predominant types of dowry crimes relate to cruelty (which includes emotional torture and harassment) and domestic violence including physical and sexual assaults.
“Wallah! This world in comparison to the Aakhirah is like any of you putting his finger in the sea.
See what does it [the finger] bring back!”
(Mishkaat, Kitaabur Riqaaq)
Comment: This world with its pleasures and time in comparison to the pleasures and time of the Aakhirah is like the moistness left on a finger after dipping it in the ocean. The moistness is utterly inferior and insignificant in relation to the countless of litres of water in the ocean. (Mirqaat)
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Wednesday 14 Dhul-Qadah 1440 17 July 2019
THE SUNNAH OF LOOKING AFTER ONES HOUSEHOLD
Hakim bin Hizam Radiallahu Anhu reported Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam having said this:
The most excellent Sadaqa or the best of Sadaqa is that after giving which the (giver) remains rich and the upper hand is better than the lower hand, and begin from the members of your household.
It has been narrated on the authority of Ibn 'Umar that Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said:
Beware! every one of you is a shepherd and everyone is answerable with regard to his flock. The Caliph is a shepherd over the people and shall be questioned about his. A man is a guardian over the members of his family and shall be questioned about. A woman is a guardian over the household of her husband and his children and shall be questioned about them. A slave is a guardian over the property of his master and shall be questioned about. Beware, every one of you is a guardian and every one of you shall be questioned with regard to his trust.
Narrated Qatada Radiallahu Anhu
Anas Radiallahu Anhu went to Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam with barley bread having some dissolved fat on it. Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam had mortgaged his armor to a Jew in Medina and took from him some barley for his family. Anas Radiallahu Anhu heard him saying, "The household of Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) did not possess even a single Sa (2.5kg) of wheat or food grains for the evening meal, although he has nine wives to look after."
Al-Aswad Radiallahu Anhu said, "I asked 'A'isha Radiallahu Anha, may Allah be pleased with her, 'What did Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam do when he was with his family?' She replied, 'He would do chores for his family, and when it was time for the prayer, he would go out.'"
Hisham Radiallahu Anhu said, "I asked 'A'isha Radiallahu Anha, 'What did Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam do in his house?' She replied, 'He did what one of you would do in his house. He mended sandals and patched garments and sewed."
'Amra Radiallahu Anhu reported that 'A'isha Radiallahu Anha was asked, "What did Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam do in his house?" She replied, "He was a man like other men. He removed the fleas from his garment and milked his sheep."