There were two houses standing next to each other. In one of them resided a very unhappy family. The spouses yelled at each other, they fought and quarreled all the time. The other was a place of happiness and calm.
During one of the fights a wife asked her husband:
“Did you ever hear them quarrel or yell over at that house? No!
So, go there and see what they do to avoid it!”
The husband stood at the window of his neighbors and watched. There they were busy doing their own thing. The wife was in the kitchen cooking, and the man sat at the table writing. The phone rang, and the man jumped up and headed to the hallway to get it.
On his way he bumped into a vase, it fell and broke. He got down to his knees and started picking up the pieces. The wife ran into the room from the kitchen. She also kneeled down and started helping her husband to pick them up.
The man said to his wife:
“I am so sorry. I rushed to get the phone and bumped into the vase. It fell and got broken.”
The wife replied:
“No, honey, it is my fault. I put it there on the way. That’s why you bumped into it.” They made up, and that was over. Both got back to what they were doing.
The man who watched them returned to his wife. She wanted to know what the secret of their happiness was.
What he said was fantastic:
“I know it now. In their family they both are guilty and in our family both of us are always right!”
That’s the secret of family happiness!
There are times you need to forfeit your right to win your peace: depends on which you cherish most.
This recipe is applicable, not only in the home, but also at work and in all relationships.
Hakeemul Ummah Hazrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thaanwi Sahib رحمه الله has said that the concept of a home is a reality. But what is defined as a home?
A home can be termed as a place where nobody has a right to evict one. An individual cannot lay claim to somebody else's house; the owner will have him evicted. Similarly, if any person has wealth, nobody has a right to snatch it away.
At this juncture, what is the reality that defines our possessions regarding our homes, our wealth, our respect, our honour, our wives and children? If these really belong to us, then nobody has a right to take it away. But the reality is that every individual will need to leave all his possessions when he departs from this world.
A home is a place from which no one can expel us
Hazrat Thaanwi رحمه الله explains that a home is such a place where no one can expel us but we have to acknowledge that a single order from the government can result in our possessions being snatched away. Can we then attach ourselves to our 'homes' where we cannot exercise full control. We have deceived ourselves in that we have attached ourselves to something that does not truly belong to us; when the One and Only Owner wills, He will eject us at any given time. We therefore have no control over our homes, wealth, wives and children. How then can we lay claim to anything that we feel belongs to us?
THE NIKAH OF HADHRAT FAATIMAH (radhiallahu anhaa)--- A LESSON FOR US!
Hadhrat Ali (radhiallahu anhu) very bashfully approached Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) for the great wealth of Nabi's (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) daughter. Hadhrat Ali (radhiallahu anhu) made his marriage proposal for the hand of Hadhrat Faatimah (radhiallahu anhaa) directly to Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam). The command of Allah Ta'ala was immediately revealed and Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) accepted the proposal.
The rigmarole, frills and fancies attendant to proposals and engagements were totally absent. The customs surrounding marriage proposals and engagements of nowadays are nonsensical and at variance as well as in conflict with the Sunnah.
At the time of marriage the age of Hadhrat Faatimah (radhiallahu anha) was fifteen and half years and that of Hadhrat Ali (radhiallahu anhu) was twenty one years. After accepting Hadhrat Ali's (radiallahu anhu) proposal, Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) ordered Hadhrat Anas (radiallahu anhu), "O Anas, go and call Abu Bakr, Umar. Uthmaan, Talhaa, Zuhair and a group among the Ansaar."
It is clear from this example set by Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) that the Nikah ceremony was being arranged with the greatest of simplicity and without any fanfare. No special gathering, venue, time, etc. was contemplated nor was any hue and cry raised about the Nikah which was about to be conducted. It is thus Sunnat to merely gather some close relatives and others, without creating a hubbub and proceed with the Nikah quietly and with dignity, i.e. without the accompaniment of the multitude of un-lslamic and haraam customs and activities so rife in Muslim marriages of the day.
Sadly, hardly a day goes by without someone being a victim of crime.
No man, woman, child or old person is safe from being attacked in his home, shop or car. Everyone lives in fear. Everyone is scared. The best of security features cannot keep the criminals at bay. Whereas non-Muslims attribute crime to various factors, Muslims will understand that ultimately nothing happens without Allah’s Command. Not a leaf moves without His Direct Divine Order.
O, how much we sin against Allah Ta’ala! O, how much we disregard the Sunnat of Rasulullah Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam! O, how we cheat on our wives! We commit Zina with our eyes and speech. O, how we disobey our husbands. We get angry at them for no real reason. Who is free from the poison of our sins?
We sin freely and happily. We encourage others to join us in committing sins. We enjoy and propagate our sins. We boast about our sins. We love our sins. We are proud of our sins. Instead of seriously seeking to reform and repent, we prefer to defend and die for our sins.
Those who enlighten us and encourage us to sin are viewed as friends. Those who point out our sins to us, are mocked at and viewed as enemies. We feel offended when Nahi-anil-Munkar is made. Terribly offended. Offended enough to fight.
The Muazzin called Fajr time. How few cared! Last night we were busy until late watching TV and Videos. This morning we were too tired to make Sajdah unto Allah. So much is Allah forgotten despite being so much needed!
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8 Rabbi al-Awwal 1441 05 November 2019
BID’AT (INNOVATIONS IN DEEN)
A'isha Radiallahu Anha reported Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam as saying:
“He who innovates things in our affairs for which there is no valid (reason) (commits sin) and these are to be rejected.”
Abu Huraira Radiallahu Anhu reported Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam as saying:
“Medina is a sacred territory, so he who made any innovation in it. or gave protection to an innovator, there is upon him the curse of Allah, that of the angels and that of all the people. There would not be accepted on the Day of Resurrection either obligatory acts or supererogatory acts from him.”
On the authority of A’isha Radiallahu Anhu who narrated that Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said:
“He who innovates something in this matter of ours (i.e., Islam) that is not of it will have it rejected (by Allah).” [Bukhari & Muslim] In another version in Muslim it reads: “He who does an act which we have not commanded, will have it rejected (by Allah).”