Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: “Among the Arab women, the women of the Quraysh surpass all other women in two aspects: they are very compassionate to their children and they protect the wealth of their husbands.”
Lesson: We learn from this that women should possess these two characteristics. These days, women spend the wealth of their husbands very lavishly. They should display far more compassion and attention to reforming their habits and mannerisms than what they display for their children’s food and clothing. If they do not do this, their compassion and tenderness will be incomplete.
Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: “Marry virgin women because their relationship with their husbands is soft and tender, and they are pleased with the minimum that is spent on them.”
Lesson: We learn from this that modesty, consideration and contentment are good characteristics in a woman. This does not mean that one should not marry widows. Instead, this is actually in praise of virgin women. There are certain Ahadith in which Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam made du‘a for a certain Sahabi for marrying a widow. Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: “When a woman offers her five times salat, keeps the fasts of Ramadan, safeguards her honour, and obeys her husband; she can enter jannah from whichever door shewishes.”
Lesson: This means that if she is steadfast on the necessary forms of ‘ibadah, there is no need to engage in other forms of ‘ibadah which are very taxing. The status and reward that one receives for engaging in the other forms of ‘ibadah can be obtained by a woman by merely obeying her husband, tending to her children, and fulfilling her domestic tasks.