Giving the ‘Green Light’ to the Deen of Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى
Allah Jalla Jalaluhu has endowed us, Muslims with a great gift in the form of the Deen of Islam. Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى says in Qur’an Kareem:
Today I have perfected your Deen for you, completed My bounty upon you and chosen Islam as your Deen. [Qur’an 5:3]
It is now your duty to see that this great bounty from Allah enters your life and the lives of the members of your entire family and it remains there till the end. This requires a great effort.
Let us examine the lifestyles of the following two men, Man A and Man B with regards to the religious efforts they are making on their respective families.
He is a very religious man. Besides regularly praying five times a day (never missing Takbeer-e-Ula) he is also very particular about his Nawafil Salaah, fasting twice every week and giving Sadaqah on a regular basis.
However, being the head of the family he is not very strict about his family members, including his wife, or rather, he is very soft with them. They are very far from Deen. They are very much involved in the amusements and entertainment of the world. They are not even regular in offering their Salaah. In short, each one is living in his or her own world totally opposite to that of the head of the family.
Although he is very regular in offering his five-time Salaah and never goes against the commands of Allah, you cannot call him an extremely religious man. He is average in his worship. He lacks the ability to fast extra days besides Ramadhan and is also laxed about offering Tahajjud Salaah.
Notwithstanding all these shortcomings, he is very particular that his family members are not away from Deen. He sees that they do not go against the commands of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala, abstain from un-Islamic activities and are also very regular in offering their daily five-time Salaah.
Which one of the above two has true love for his family?
Abdullah ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband’s home and his children and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt, every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 6719, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1829. Sahi
The Railway Engine
The role of the head of the family can be compared to that of a railway engine. The function of a railway engine is to pull a train of railcars (railway coaches). A railway engine is worthless if it does not have a train with it.
In the same manner the head of the family being the shepherd of his family, is like the train engine that has the power to pull the ‘train’ comprising his family members. He has to be conscientious about himself as well as his family members remaining on the right path.
Deen at the Door
Looking at the state of some of today’s families we find it exactly opposite. The head of the family is leading one type of life based on piety while the rest of the family members are on a totally different path, constantly disobeying Allah’s commands. His male family members might be keeping away from Masjid for consecutive days, yet he is reluctant to reprimand them.
This situation can be likened to the following scenario which conveys a very strong message:
A man or the Head of the Family is sitting on a sofa in his living room reciting Qur’an. There are other members of his family, all preoccupied with their smartphones.
Suddenly the doorbell rings. The man waits for someone to open the door, but everyone seems deeply engrossed in their screens. Eventually the head of the house himself has to open it.
Standing in front of the door is an elderly man. He says, “My name is ‘Deen‘ (religion). I have come to stay in your house. If you will let me in, you and your family will be abundantly rewarded by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala.”
The Head of the Family hesitates for a while. He then answers, “Please let me consult my family members.” After saying this he goes inside.
The first person he approaches is his sixteen-year old daughter. She seems to be busy chatting with her boyfriend on WhatsApp. He asks her if Deen can come to their house. She answers, “Please Dad leave me alone. Can’t you see I’m busy?” After saying so she continues with her chat.
Son’s Cold Response
The man goes to his eighteen-year old son. His eyes are closed and his body parts are moving in rhythm with the music that he is listening to through the earphones, the wires of which are fixed to his smartphone. The man asks him, “Can you hear me?” The boy opens his eyes. The man asks him if it is okay if Deen comes to their house. The boy gestures negatively and closes his eyes, apparently continuing listening to the music on his earphones.
Now only his wife is left. He goes to her. She is engaged in doing some work on her smartphone. She glances at him and says, “Sorry I could not open the door as I am engaged in drafting a letter to a men’s organization to invite them to attend a grand social gathering that our ladies group is holding next week.” She pauses for a while and then continues, “Who is outside?”
The man says, “It is the ‘Deen‘ of Allah. He wants to come to our home.”
On hearing this the wife frowns and says, “Tell him we have no room for him. We do not have enough time for Deen to enter our house. Also tell him to go to the Masjid. That is his right abode for him.”
The man comes out and informs Deen about his inability to let him enter their house although he very much wished he could.
This in fact is the condition in many homes today. Although the man might be righteous and having piety, he is helpless in front of his family. The reason is the environment we are living in is extremely polluted with un-Islamic people, culture, norms, forbidden activities and indulgences. If the head of the family fails to fulfil his duties as the shepherd of his home then he is solely responsible for failure of Deen to enter his home.
Some ways the head of the family can let Deen enter his home
- There is an Urdu saying which when translated into English would read: When the husband is pious Deen reaches the doorsteps only, but when the wife is pious Deen can reach right inside the home. Thus, it is very important that you make efforts to bring Deen into your wife’s life.
- Inculcate in the minds of your family members the recognition of Allah – His greatness, His powers, His omnipresence etc.
- Have daily sessions of Qur’an recitation and Taleem in your home.
- Talk to them about the Seeraah of Nabi (Sallallahu ‘alayhi wa Sallam) more often and guide them to adopt his Sunnah in their lifestyle.
- Impose a limit on their access to the smartphones and other digital gadgets and also, closely monitor their uses of these devices.
- Create an Islamic atmosphere in your home. Read to them the stories of the Sahaaba and how much they struggled for the Deen of Allah.
- Teach them in a very simple language how to differentiate between halaal and haram; twahir (ritually pure) and ghair twahir or najees (ritually impure); legitimate and illegitimte.
- Make sure they do not miss even a single Salaah. The male members should go to the Masjid to participate in congregational Salaah five times a day and the female members should perform their five-time Salaah at home on a regular basis.
- It is very important for your family members to understand the right concept of Hayaa (modesty) and the importance of adopting it in their daily life.
- Explain to them the evils of genders mixing and keep them strictly away from all gatherings where gender mixing is common.
- Deen can leave our home when we give more importance to Dunia and give up the practice of enjoining good and forbidding evil. Hadhrat Abu Huraira (radhiAllahu ‘anhu) has narrated: “Said the Prophet (Sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam): When my Ummah begin to attach more importance to the world and regard it as a source of glory, the awe and importance of Islam will vanish from their hearts. When they give up the practice of enjoining good and forbidding evil, they will be deprived of the blessings of revelation, and, when they begin to indulge in mutual recrimination, they will fall low in the eyes of Allah.”
- There are some homes where the opposite is the case. The wife has a high level of piety while the husband is away from Deen. In such circumstances the wife should try all avenues to bring the right understanding of Deen in her husband while making profound Du’ato Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala to guide him and the family on the right path.
- Lastly, if you give the ‘Green Light’ to Deen to enter your home, you and your entire family will inshaAllah be given the ‘Green Light’ to enter Jannah.
May Deen of Allah flourish lavishly in our homes…Aamin