Worry about the Islaah of Children – Part 4
The worry of livelihood and its fitna
Today the parents are driving their children to such an environment for livelihood that neither their Imaan nor their salaah nor their hayaa nor their akhlaaq is safe. They are making this livelihood as such an animal that would eat all the Imaan and islami qualities from their children. Eventually the child grows up to become a money earning animal. It is this worry of livelihood that destroys the Imaan. Allaahu yabsutur rizqa liman yashaao wayaqdiru. “Allah doth enlarge, or grant by (strict) measure, the sustenance (which He giveth) to whomso He pleaseth” “walillaahi khazaainus samaawaati walarDi” “But to Allah belong the treasures of the heavens and the earth” Allah ﷻ has placed the treasures of rizq (provision) only in His hands. “Wafis samaai rizqukum wamaa tooAAadoona”. “And in heaven is your Sustenance, as (also) that which ye are promised.” The decision of your provision is made in the heavens. Today the kufr is hunting the new generation of Muslims only with the trap of this livelihood. They invite our children to their places promising them that they will solve the problem of their livelihood. They invite our children as they do not have their own youngsters but only old people. They want to run their machines with our help. Our children then become the parts of machines of kuffaar. The Muslim then lives like them and dies like them. They have so set the trap with the education so we fit ourselves for their machines and then they name it as solving our livelihood problems. Allah ﷻ has given the solution exactly for this problem saying, “Innallaaha huwa Ar-razzaaq dhul quwwatil mateen.”
Make the children to establish salaah
The tarbiat of children is one of the greatest sadaqa-e-jaariya. “Ya bunayya aqimi alssalata”. “O my son! establish regular prayer.” Instruct your children to offer salah and you also join. Our words and advice will be effective only when we ourselves lead a beautiful life. If you want your children to become sadaqa-e-jaariya for you, then become a sadaqa-e-jaariya for your parents. The father (Luqman-e-Hakeem) is saying, “Ya bunayya aqimis salaah”. Establish salah. It is not just necessary to offer the salah but one should establish the salah. “Fawaylun lilmusalleen. Alladheena hum an salaatihum saa’hoon”, “So woe to those worshippers who are neglectful of their prayers” If there is destruction for those who offer salah, then we can think what will happen to those who do not offer salah. There is no proper establishment of salah. Sometime people offer salah and sometimes they leave. Sometimes they offer in jamah and sometimes they don’t. Sometimes they offer three times prayer, sometimes four times and leave the fajr. What a Muslim is he! The scholars have told that establishing salah means wherever one is, when the time for salah comes, he makes the environment in such a way then even those who do not offer salah starts offering salah.
Teach akhlaaq to the children
Luqmaan ؑ then advised his son to keep forbidding evil and become the safeer (ambassador) of good and have patience over the taunts and abuse of people for this is a great act of courage. “Ya bunayya aqimi alssalata wamur bialmaAAroofi wainha AAani almunkari wasbir AAala ma asabaka inna thalika min AAazmi alomoori”. “O my son! establish regular prayer, enjoin what is just, and forbid what is wrong: and bear with patient constancy whatever betide thee; for this is firmness (of purpose) in (the conduct of) affairs.” Truly it is a great act of courage to become a daa’ee of deen, safeer of deen, khaadim (the one who serves) of deen and that too in such an environment, where the evil has become good, where a man who is supposed to preach righteousness has become a fraud, where the thoughts have become obscure and extreme and where one tends to get all sort of taunts from people. The father here is teaching the son a lesson to act courageously and to become a preventer of evils and a minaara (light-house) of noor of righteousness and to lead such a life. This is how the father is giving his son taleem (education) and teaching him akhlaaq (good manners). “Wala tusaAAAAir khaddaka lilnnasi wala tamshi fee alardi marahan inna Allaha la yuhibbu kulla mukhtalin fakhoorin.” “And turn not your face away from men with pride, nor walk in insolence through the earth. Verily, Allah likes not any arrogant boaster”. Do not scold the people, do not act as prideful for Allah ﷻ likes humbleness, stay within your limits, treat the human as human, everyone came to this world naked and it is the generosity of Allah SWT that He grants some more and some less. Let there be no show of pride through your act or word.
Takabbur (pride) is a great misfortune. The shaitaan did so many sujud but takabbur made him the cursed one. He fell before the eyes of Allah SWT and Allah’s SWT lanat (curse) fell on his neck. The takabbur can come because of money or beauty and in fact when one do not have proper tarbiat, takabbur can come because of few tasbiyaat and nafil acts. Do not belittle anyone if you see any sin in him as belittling is a worst sin than the other person’s sin. Have mercy on the sinner, be compassionate towards him, make him understand with love but do not look him down. “Waiqsid fee mashyika waoghdud min sawtika inna ankara alaswati lasawtu alhameeri.” “And be moderate (or show no insolence) in your walking, and lower your voice. Verily, the harshest of all voices is the braying of the asses.” Being an insaan, do not act like a donkey.
Take care of the children for they are the blessings from Allah ﷻ
These are the methodologies of the tarbiat of children. Such a tarbiat can only be given by a father who wants to make his children a means of capital for the akhirat. If there is a father who can teach better than Luman-e-Hakeem, then definitely Allah ﷻ would have mentioned His name in His kalaam. No father can give more enlightening thoughts than this father to his son. This is a great favor of a father towards his son. There is a great prevision in this tarbiat. Such was the manner of Muslim’s tarbiat. The kuffar’s tarbiat is entirely different for their knowledge is adulterated and their tarbiat too is adulterated as it is based just on this dunya. The knowledge of Muslim is complete as it is based on dunya and akhirat and his tarbiat is also kaamil as it is based on dunya and akhirat. When a Muslim grows with such a tarbiat, he becomes a complete man. So do consider your children as blessings from Allah ﷻ. For Allah’s sake, take this new generation towards Allah ﷻ and towards eemaan. Or else if the tree gets dried and their Imaan gets dried, nothing will be left. Unfortunately the recognition of Muslim children has come to an end that they cannot be recognized among people. When they are in airport or when they sit among other youngsters, none gets up for salah when the time for salah comes and they cannot be recognized if they are Muslim or not. The parents carry responsibility in this. Our beloved Prophet ﷺ said that when son of Adam dies, every deed comes to an end except the three and righteous children are one among them. As long as the righteous child lives and the effect of tarbiat is shown, his good deeds will reach his parents. Let Allah ﷻ protect us from the case wherein if a child’s tarbiat is not done in the proper way, the effect of his sins too will keep reaching the parents. So for Allah’s sake, do not put your children in danger for few pennies of this dunya and do not spoil the children who are such a great blessings. Let Allah ﷻ help us all to act on what we hear, read, write and preach. Ameen
Source: theheartopener – Hazra Maulana Abdus Sattar hafizahullah
