A Casual Relationship?

We would not be contented with having a casual relationship with Allah Ta’ala. How can we be contented with a casual relationship? If we look at our relationship with those we love, are we satisfied with just a basic relationship? No one is contented with just having a shallow bond with his dear ones.

As a matter of fact, every one desires his relationship with those whom he/she loves to be par excellence.

Look at the relationship with the wife. Although this is a very weak bond in that it is connected with just a short statement of acceptance and just a single word of Talaaq severs this connection, yet no one satisfies himself with a superficial relationship with the wife. Every one desires his relationship with his wife to be perfect and intense. For the sake of intensifying this bond a man will go to extremes. He will purchase for his wife such garments and jewellery which are not really necessary, nor a duty upon him, for the sole purpose of strengthening this bond.

If a man just fulfils the waajib rights of his wife there will be no pleasure in such a relationship and inevitably such a relationship will break down. Maintaining a relationship is dependent on strengthening it. Remember this well. A man will purchase for his wife as much as she desires and even more. He will have a healthy relationship with his in-laws. He will see to her happiness at all times, take her on holiday, make light her work at home. All this he does for the sake of strengthening the bond between him and his wife, whereas we have just mentioned that this bond is extremely thin and weak. Nevertheless, no one wishes to sever his relationship with his wife and if it reaches that stage, then what grief does it cause! For an enduring relationship all mustahab acts of marriage are resorted to.

We do all this for the sake of a relationship which is so flimsy, and we are so concerned with its permanency! It is then astonishing that in spite of our relationship with our Creator, Allah Ta’ala we display apathy at strengthening our bond with him. The bond with Allah Ta’ala can never be severed. We will always remain his creation and his servants. Considering this to be the strongest of all bonds, why are we not concerned with strengthening this bond? Why do we not think on the same lines here as we think in regard to our bond with our wives?

The permanence of a relationship is dependent on strengthening the relationship. Not working to strengthen a relationship endangers the relationship. Can anyone tolerate his relationship with Allah Ta’ala breaking? We cannot even tolerate our
relationship with our wives and children breaking; our relationship with our friends breaking, whereas these are all weak relationships, then how can we tolerate our relationship with Allah Ta’ala even weakening? To be content with a weak relationship with Allah Ta’ala is indeed a great injustice.

(Modified From Thammun Nisyaan by Hazrat Moulana Thanwi Rahmatullahi Alaih)